Posted by: Thixia | April 1, 2008

Taking the stress out of your life – with Children

For those of you with children.

Children of all ages need a lot of praise and encouragement to perform household tasks willingly and without nagging. You will have to buy some gold or silver glitter, this will be your Tinker Bell dust.  Buy scrap books, glue sticks, items for decorating each page of the scrap book, and a number of scissors that cut in fancy patterns.  It is important that there is enough of each of these items for each child.

I know it is difficult to get children to clean up their rooms and help with housework around the house.  I am going to give you some ideas of how to do this.  I would like any of you who have any other ideas to please leave a comment or email me.

Rent the movie “Peter Pan”  by Disney, or read the story to your children.  After watching the movie, reading the book, or telling the story explain to them that Tinker Bell is going to start visiting them everyday, but they will never see Tinker Bell. 

Tell them that Tinker Bell will leave them some Tinker Bell dust and a reward whenever they clean their room, make their bed, perform a chore around the house, etc.  Use your imagination. 

You are going to become Tinker Bell.

Explain to your children that after they clean their room, perform a chore, help around the house, that Tinkle Bell will visit and leave them a note or a small surprise.

If you have older and younger children you can enlist the older ones to be Tinker Bell.

All of you can have a lot of fun with this.

Rewards can be a treat, a gift, a note of encouragement, a hug, a note promising some alone time with you, a promise of a special meal.  It is very important that you leave dust and a reward every single time that your child does something to help around the house.  If you don’t act on it immediately you will lose their trust.  You must be careful to be age appropriate with your surprises.  Older children benefit from this also.  You have to be honest in your praise and assistance.

It will be a good idea, at least for the first few months, to have everyone sit down at the kitchen table at the some time, with all of the equipment spread out in the middle of the table.  Each person can have their own scrape book in front of them.  First you can have them decorate the front of their own scrape book.  Ask the older children to help the younger ones.  If you only have young children you may have a lot of work in showing them how to glue notes etc. into the scrapbook.  Remember, it is always more work (at first) to teach children how to do something.  But, in the end it will be worth it because they will soon be able to do to job themselves.  Don’t correct what they have done only PRAISE.  People learn more from positive reinforcement and negative reinforcement.  We all respond and improve with true praise.

Now go out and encourage those children to clean.

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